Kaipātiki Parent Pack

Family Boundaries

“Kia kaha tatou ki te iwi, ki te tautoko i a tatou tamariki, mokopuna kia tu pakari ai ratou i nga tau kei to heke maio.”

“Let us support our children and grandchildren to ensure they have a secure future.”

All children need boundaries—they provide structure, safety, and a clear understanding of what is acceptable in relationships and behaviour. When boundaries are set with clarity, honesty, and respect they become a powerful tool for nurturing healthy communication and personal growth. As teenagers begin to navigate increased independence, boundaries are essential in guiding them to make responsible choices and resist negative peer pressure.

Boundaries also play a key role in helping teens protect their emotional and physical well-being. They serve as a foundation for building self-esteem and developing healthy, respectful relationships. When teens learn to set and express their own boundaries, they practice communicating their needs clearly and confidently. At the same time, they begin to understand and respect the boundaries of others—recognizing that it’s okay to say “no,” to express themselves authentically, and to not take things personally.

Ultimately, learning to set and honour boundaries encourages teens to reflect on their values, needs, and comfort levels. This self-awareness helps them develop a strong sense of identity and fosters respectful, lasting relationships with those around them.